If you are an iPhone user, there is a moment when you are texting someone for the first time, a moment of truth before you know if that text bubble is going to turn blue or green.
The distinction here, in case someone has a firm anti-sms policy and has never done so before, is that the blue message bubble means the recipient of your text is an iPhone user as well. A green bubble means they are not. So wherever that relationship takes you, the road will be paved with SMS.
It was when I thought about that moment not too long ago – Schrödinger’s text bubble, if you will – that I started to wonder how much it really mattered to daters. In my world, opinions on various technology platforms and devices are commonplace. There are dedicated devotee camps who will die on different hills holding a flag for everything from operating systems to Linux or bust, babe-style browsers.
The war between iMessage and SMS even arose in Epic Games’ lawsuit against Apple, as a January Wall Street Journal article points out. There has been some debate as to whether iMessage’s clumsiness at getting along with Android is tantamount to stifling the competition. Google Senior Vice President Hiroshi Lockheimer even reported the issue on Twitter, saying it was bullying. Apple did not immediately respond to a request for comment.
However, not everyone has these strong opinions. So I reached out to OkCupid, who are used to asking all kinds of questions of their daters, whether they pay the extra 50 cents for guacamole or if they’re the type to clap when their plane lands.
Using the Story feature on his Instagram account, which has over 55,000 followers, they asked if people would message someone who doesn’t have an iPhone. Thirty-one percent said they would not.
Guys. That’s over a quarter.
Twenty-seven percent added that green bubbles are worse than mansplaining. Which is right, * the boss’s kiss. * NOTHING should be worse than complaining. Rotten milk. Wet socks. My downstairs neighbor. NOTHING.
Before you go after those Apple fans, OkCupid has also had the iPhone vs. Android issue in its app since 2018, and 58% of people in the US say it’s still Android, up from 38. % who believe in blue bubbles, forever and ever amen. And if you’re wondering about that misguided 4%, because you’ve done the math in your head you’re smart, they always dangle flip phones and, we (me) here at Love Syncs applaud them for it.
Never stop enjoying the satisfying snap of a closed flip phone.
So where does all of this leave us? With a stark reminder that when it comes to dating, people can hold on to characteristics that don’t really impact the relationship. It’s easy to create a mental list of all the dealbreakers (must love chinchillas!) That can hamper basic compatibility.
Granted, being on the same ecosystem or using the same services can make life easier – there are families who run their lives with Google Calendar or share Spotify accounts. You may prefer your older parents to have devices similar to you for easier troubleshooting.
All of this can come later. The devices you use or the platforms you use are not who you are. Additionally, never underestimate humans’ capacity for change. I know a couple who survived an iPhone / Windows phone phase, and they are STILL MARRIED. And let’s not forget that Apple’s share of the global smartphone market is around 13%, according to IDC, so there isn’t a small chance that Apple and Android users will meet in the streets of Verona at one point.
I’ll bite your thumb, sir, and your rigid views on ecosystems.
So, the next time you wait for that moment of truth … blue or green … remember that in reality there are more pressing things when it comes to judging who is compatible with you and who is not. not.
And still get the guac.
CNET’s Love Syncs is an advice column focused on online dating. If you have a question about finding love through the app, send it to [email protected] for review.